These meetings are a healthy environment for you, the caregiver. They are. without a doubt, a significant stress reliever. You will walk out of them with the immense weight of troublesome burdens lifted from your shoulders. In addition, you will possess a new sense of motivation that will help to continue moving forward.
However one of the first predicaments you will face will be finding someone trustworthy to cover for you at home. Even if it is only for an hour or two, you must be certain that your temporary replacement is able to meet the demands that will lie ahead of them.
For someone who has never worn the shoes of a caregiver, the difficulty in finding a person suitable to stand in the gap for you may seem a little odd, but that’s how life is for most caregivers.
It is difficult enough to find the time to simply keep up with weekly chores, never mind a couple hours to do something away from home, no matter how essential.
In today’s high tech world, we have the option of joining an online support group. If possible engage in both methods, for there’s nothing like a face to face encounter between caregivers. There’s a brotherhood (or sisterhood) type of bond that develops, leading to a very powerful, and meaningful, experience.
Upon exploring the internet I have discovered a multitude of dementia support groups to choose from. Be choosy though as, sadly, there are some that truly don’t understand the definition of "support." I have even belonged to groups that have gone so far as to kick members out for venting too much! Can you imagine? Some have given their members a so called "time-out" for debating issues, at times suspending their membership for a certain amount of days. I’m sorry, but in my opinion that’s a childish response and not at all helpful to anyone! This response is as far from being supportive as you can get. When caregivers are frustrated they need to air it out. It is precisely at this juncture when they are most in need of crucial succor.
If you join a group and you’re not satisfied about what you’re seeing and learning, walk away. As I mentioned earlier, there are many different ones to choose from.
I recommend a support group that contains both caregiver and patients, creating a blend from which to gather and share varied information. There are very few places where you can find an education quite like this.
“Forget Me Not” is the name of a group I have been involved with and I am happy to say I have had nothing but a positive experience with them. Everyone is treated like family. In my estimation true family is when no one is ever left behind or forgotten. This group can be found on Facebook. Simply enter the name in the search bar and click "join group" and an administrator will accept your membership. They also have a page for Spanish speaking members.
It is a closed group where anything that is said there, stays there. Make sure that is standard with whatever groups you join. Remember, you are on the internet. Open groups may attract vultures searching for their next prey.
Be safe, learn, vent and remember that knowledge is a power that all caregivers desperately need.